A boyfriend...if I had to guess...# 9 David A,

 I would have to add that I had a boyfriend, David, who was from Israel...small, dark...My friend John had died, many of his best friends lived in San Francisco. I flew out there from NY...my first time flying on my own. I stayed in a small apartment with a bunch of other people that were super drugged out the entire time...They were in Twin Peaks so way up at the top of SF. I loved to wander downhill and photograph all of the tiny Japanese style front yard gardens...so beautiful. 

I really had nothing in common with the stoners that were my friend John's close friends except we were close to John at different times in his life. I think John and I were always close, all through our life but we went on divergent paths.

Anyway, I can't remember how it came to be, but I took a liking to a man that was a friend of a friend of this group...David...he was a drummer...kind of dark and intense. I went to a few gigs with him and he gave me an additional appreciation of Bossa Nova, especially Elaine Elias. I liked that he was Israeli, different. He was very into me so I liked that too. 

I can't remember where he lived in SF....maybe in the Mission.

I was living in NYC so saw him rarely. 

I visited him in Ohio? I flew into St Louis, saw the arch...he picked me up and we crossed the border into Ohio, He had a group of Israeli friends that lived there. 

I remember walking around with my camera thinking how crazy the plant growth was there...and insects!...It was so odd to me. I pay so close attention and did not like the nature there...so rough, unapproachable.

It was the only time I ever felt that way....Perhaps I was too far from an ocean or sea...and that is not a place I like to be,

We broke up after that trip...not sure why...can't remember all that much. I think we dated for almost 2 years....must have been mid 90's? After I was divorced.

He has tried to reconnect a few times over the years and I pushed him off. A few months ago he contacted me on FB...I accepted him as a friend...he sent me a message apologizing blah blah blah for breaking up years ago.

He has a child and lives in Sf still...

no interest...but he did reinforce Bossa Nova in me and showed me that Ohio is just not for me.

If I had to say..I liked him as he was foreign, had an accent, was in the military in Israel...he was a musician , loved music was very intense and fun. I liked his strong intense male energy. 

I did not like his limited ambition and the time spent in Ohio which gave me the "icks".